-->
X

Parenting

A Step By Step Guide To Sleep Training Your Baby

A Step By Step Guide To Sleep Training Your Baby
February 19, 2019

Sleep training is a hot topic in the parents community, and some may even consider it controversial.  For me, sleep training is a personal decision that was effective for our family (there are many happy thriving families that do not sleep train).  As a family doctor, I have many families come into my practice asking me how to sleep train, so I created a step by step guide on how to sleep train your baby. We made the decision to sleep train after 11 months of disrupted sleep.  Graeme and I were sleep deprived and we decided to sleep train Madi. I hope you find this step by step guide to sleep training helpful. Please stay for my future posts as over the next 2 weeks I will be posting about everything I know about sleep!


Before you start sleep training, I recommend talking to your primary care provider to ensure that your child is able to be sleep trained as some children may need night time feeds or to be assessed at night time for various reasons like medical illnesses or developmental delay. 


What is important to know before you start sleep training, is that you need a consistent bed-time and nap routine first.  When Madi was 6 months old, we started a healthy bed time routine to try and encourage a good nights sleep.  Its important to know that even a consistent bed time and nap routine didn’t help Madi sleep through the night.  


We then decided to sleep train Madi at 11 months, but you can actually start as early as 4-6 months.   


Sleep training step 1: Establish a bed time routine

1.     Establish a consistent bedtime: When Madi was 0-18 months, we put her to bed around 7pm.  It’s important to stick to the same time every single night.  Otherwise, you might disrupt the body’s natural sleep rhythms, which makes it more difficult to get your baby to sleep.  

2.     Establish a relaxing pre-bedtime routine:  This should not include stimulating activities like iPads and games.  This relaxing routine should last 20-45 minutes and include 2-3 soothing activities such as taking a bath, changing into PJs and reading stories. The introduction of a sleep association toy or blanket may also be used. When Madi was 11 months, this was her bedtime routine:


- 6:45 I would tell Madi it was “sleepy time.”  This will help her start to connect the dots with this time of evening meaning she is getting ready to go to bed.  

- Then, Madi “brushes” her teeth, (or Graeme and I do it for her)

- Next, we either give Madi a bath or a cloth wipe down of her face and hands

- We put Madi into a sleeper (she always wears a sleeper for bedtime).

- Find her “sophie” (“sophie is a very small blanket with a little giraffe head on it and it sleeps with her every night).

- We give Madi milk, or breastfeed her, then cuddle (ideally this step should not be here).  We do give Madi a bottle at bedtime, but some sleep experts suggest not giving a bottle at bedtime as it gives an association with eating at bedtime, and therefore a child may not be able to fall asleep without feeding. There are also maybe dental concerns with giving milk/formula at bedtime. Feeding Madi at bed time works for us, but if you are able to eliminate feeding in your bedtime routine that may be helpful.

- Then my husband or I will sing her a song and then put her into the crib, turn off the light and say good night, we love you, see you tomorrow. 

- Wake up time around 7am.  We eat breakfast and then play until nap time.


Step 2: Establish your nap times and have a routine

When we started our new bed time routine, we considered how much time Madi needed for napping.  At 6 months, some infants may require 2 naps while others may require 3 naps. Madi only required 2 naps.  The amount of time your baby needs for night time sleep and napping depends on their age.  Please see my post on how much sleep your baby needs to help determine this. (Link -https://lifeofdrmom.com/how-much-sleep-does-my-baby-need-what-is-sleep-and-how-does-it-change-throughout-life/)


- Nap 1 is around 10am -11:30am.   Once Madi wakes up from her nap we have lunch and play.  We often have playdates arranged for lunch time.

- Nap 2 is around 3pm-4pm/4:30pm.  After nap 2 we wake up and play, then have dinner.

- After dinner, we start getting ready for bed around 6:45pm.


For you and your baby, these steps may be helpful:


  1. 1. Establish how much time your baby needs to sleep per night by adding up their total nap time hours, with their total night time sleep.  Compare this to the guidelines recommended from the National Sleep Foundation to make sure they are not getting too much, or too little sleep. 
  2. 2. Chose a bed time, and stick to it every night.  
  3. 3. Chose a wake up time, and try and stick to it every day.  
  4. 4. Determine how many naps your child is taking, and figure out what times of day are best for your child.  Stick to these times every day for your naps. 
  5. 5. Have a consistent bed time routine.  
  6. 6. If your child’s sleep was good and now is becoming disrupted, consider if your child’s sleep needs have changed as they are now older.  If they have modify their nap times, or bed times as needed.  

Step 3: when you have established a consistent bed time routine, and nap time routine, and your infant is at least 4-6 months old, now you can start  your sleep training techniques.  


1.  Chose a method of either Graduated Extinction, or unmodified extinction, and Bedtime Fading. I wrote this article to describe the most popular sleep training methods including Graduated Extinction, Unmodified Excitation, and Bedtime Fading. 


In Graduated Extinction, when you put your baby to sleep, make sure they are already sleepy or drowsy (but still awake).   Make sure they are comfortable in their crib, and leave them alone in their room.  Then, wait until your baby cries.  When your baby does start to cry, wait before checking on your baby. In Graduated Extinction, each time you go check on your baby, you wait longer and longer periods of time.  With Graduated Extinction, every night that passes you should try to gradually increase the time that you take from when your baby starts to cry, until when you check on your baby.


In Unmodified Extinction, or the “cry it out” method, put your baby into their bed after her normal bedtime routine, and let her “cry it out” until she fell asleep.  Refrain from saying anything, picking up your baby, or breastfeeding your baby.  Simply put your baby to sleep, say your “Goodnights” and exit the room.  You can watch your baby on the monitor to see how much time it takes for her to settle.  Over time, she will gain skills to self-soothe and this time will be less and less each night.    

To learn more on Graduated Extinction or Unmodified Extinction read my post on sleep training techniques (https://lifeofdrmom.com/what-are-the-best-sleep-training-methods-how-do-i-sleep-train-my-baby%EF%BB%BF/)


2. Use positive reinforcement: Positive reinforcement is a style of parenting and discipline that has been shown through medical evidence to be very effective and appropriate at all ages.  Positive reinforcement can also be used with sleep, but typically with older children. For example, if the child sleeps in their own bed all night they get a sticker in the morning that they can put on their special sticker board. For older children, the reward can be modified to the child’s interest. Make sure your toddler knows that she is behaving positively when she is able to soothe herself to sleep at night.  


3. Consider Bedtime Fading:  If your child is having difficulty falling asleep, consider if their sleep needs have changed.  Your child’s sleep needs will change as they get older.  There is a method called Bedtime Fading, which is used when the child is in bed for a prolonged period of time and is not sleeping.  This may indicate that the child is going to bed too early. 

Bedtime fading involves advancing the child’s bedtime over time to eventually align with the child’s new sleep onset time when the child is more biologically ready for sleep. For Madi, we gradually moved her bedtime from 7 pm to 8:30pm and then instead of waking up at 5am she woke up at 7am. 



Every child’s sleep times may be different, but this routine worked for my schedule and with Madi’s circadian rhythm.


Please note: If your child has continued difficulty falling asleep or maintaining sleep, it is important to see your doctor to ensure that the infant is not suffering from pain, sleep disorder, or medical problem.

Stephanie L Follow

Hi, my name is Stephanie Liu and I am a family physician and clinical lecturer at the University of Alberta, and a first time momma! I started the blog lifeofdrmom.com because I think it is hard for parents to be able to differentiate inaccurate, possibly dangerous information from reliable credible medical information for moms online. Life of Dr Mom is a health mom blog that provides parents with credible information for parenting, child development, and maternal wellness. Hope you find my mom blog helpful!

user_img
XThis website uses cookies to improve user experience.By using our website you consent to all cookies in accordance with our Cookie Policy Read more.
X
You're now following...