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Wife, mom, CEO...each one is a different role on its own and let me tell you moms, its not easy BUT it's possible.
Being a new mom and battling PPD, it was really hard for me to regain my balance.
However, after 5 months of setting goals and actively working on them every day I feel like I am finally getting some traction. Don't get me wrong, I am nowhere near perfection but I'm progressing, and even in moments where I fall short I remind myself that progression is the goal not perfection.
I wanted to share some of my tips to help my fellows mums who are juggling multiple roles while being able to show yourself grace through the process.
1. Focus on the present.
Stop focusing on what you didn't do yesterday. Moms, we are going to make mistakes. That's life and we have to embrace it. What's MOST important is that we learn from our mistakes. You know what they say, what's done is done! So don't let your past define you. Do not allow your want to be a better mom yesterday stop you from being a better mom today.
2. Communicate effectively.
Don't wait to communicate your needs. I get it, we want to be super mom and want to do everything ourselves. I just want to remind you that asking for help doesn't make you any less of an incredible mom. We need support from our spouses, friends and family. So, don't wait till you reach the point where you are burnt out or start to form bitterness to the point where you begin to play the victim.
3. Prioritize it by importance.
As a business woman, there are always deadlines that need to be achieved and company goals thats need to be reached, but it doesn't happen over night. It happens by prioritizing what's important first, finishing it and then moving on to the next important project. It's easy to begin working on various goals. However, you are less likely to finish any of them. Don't allow you ambition to become a distraction, work smarter, not harder and be a finisher.
4. All the little moments count.
I love being a wife. The role of a wife and a mom are two completely different things. Sometimes I get so caught up being a mom that I have to come to remind myself that my man comes first. Yes, moms for me my marriage comes first before my precious girl because we are Journey's greatest role models. She will see what love, sacrifice, compromise, morals, and values look like through me and my husband's relationship. Time together gets really scarce for us, so I try my best to make every moment I have intentional. If I'm heading out really early in the morning, I set the coffee for my husband, grab a sticky note and write him a short love letter. I remind him what a wonderful husband he is and how much I appreciate him being a present father to our babygirl. All those little moments keep the love alive and add to your relationship in such a sweet way. Make every moment count, even when you are heading out the door, you can always take a moment to be intentional.
5. Make the most of your time.
How many minutes or hours do you scroll through social media every day? How much television do you watch? Remember that it's not about the time that's given, it's about what you do during that time and how focused you are. You can get something done in an hour with no distractions that would usually take you 5 hours with distractions. Your focus matters, eliminate distractions.
I hope this helps mamas, I'm rooting for you every step of the way! You are an inspiration, no matter what season of life you are in.
-J
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This dancing mama is the Founder of a non-profit organization called The Outkast Academy which helps at-risk youth find purpose through the arts, mentoring, and academic coaching. She resides in Valley Village, CA with her husband Storm and sweet daughter Journey Love. Jenny loves performing arts, fitness, cooking, fashion, and blogging about REAL life moments on marriage, parenting, community and everything in between.
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