Choose to Skip the Stress This Holiday Season
This side of Heaven...
I keep typing these words over and over again.
This side of Heaven, we won't understand X, Y, or Z...
This side of Heaven I absolutely will not understand my daughter's journey.
But, I've decided to skip the stress of it.
As much as I can, that is. Because I cannot take sensory processing disorder or OCD away from her. Yet, I can choose my response to it. Especially this time of year.
What can this apply to in your life, dear one? What can you just not change about this life or season? Can you choose to change how you respond to it, instead?
When I think about the holiday season in it's utter wildness (for most), I think about what we have changed in it. We surround ourselves with others who understand that different situations and transition experiences are hard for our precious girl. We avoid scenarios that might trigger all of us (really) at this point - because we've been through the season a time or two or six... and we know what has happened before. But also, we can't change that the holidays are coming. (Okay, they are here. And I'm still coming to terms with this obviously!) So I will choose how I respond to the season on a daily basis, and sometime s that means moment by moment.
We won't go to my beloved Nutcracker, because it was too much for her and all of us last year.
We skipped our annual holiday tea.
I won't be making anything other than my organic vegetables from scratch this year - because we're guests in someone else's home... (and we don't have all the tools to cope should a meltdown occur).
I'm compromising. And I'm not comparing my reality to some perfect picture I've conjured up in my head. Because that, dear friends, was exhausting.
So let me ask you again - what can you just not change about this life or season?
Will you choose to change how you respond to it, instead?
I'm already finding this pretty rewarding, beautiful soul.
It takes A LOT of energy to fill up my bucket as a special parent. And I just don't want to run on empty anymore.
How about you?
Cheering you on, always.