Is The Problem Motherhood? No, It's Your Hormones!
A friend sent me this joke the other day:
Doctor: Do you have kids?
Woman: Yes, I have 3 kids.
Doctor: Do you drink?
Woman: Yes, I have 3 kids.
Motherhood is tough.
Of course, the joke made me laugh. It’s accepted as truth that it’s hard to have kids. I’ve heard countless stories of women complaining about how hard motherhood is and I don’t deny it. And honestly, my best excuse used to be that I had a child.
And I only have one kid. I clearly have less work than a mom with multiple kids. The biggest part of my work as a health coach is to listen to moms. I understand moms' struggles.
But, is it okay to use motherhood as an excuse for everything? For not being able to take care of ourselves? For not doing the things that are essential to our well-being as women? For keeping postponing the things that make us feel joy and pleasure?
Is it worth it to lose ourselves in the process of raising kids? I don’t think so. What kids need is a happy mom. It is our duty to find ways to be happy on our own to be an example for our kids.
There is no better tomorrow, mama. Happiness happens in the present.
So, let me tell you the truth about what’s going on: Your hormones are running the show.
How do you know you have a hormonal imbalance?
There are several simple tests you can take to find out your specific imbalance or combination of hormone imbalances. I will only name a few imbalances here:
High cortisol causes you to feel tired but wired, and prompts your body to store fuel in places it can be used easily, as fat, such as at your waist.
Low cortisol makes you feel exhausted and drained, like a car trying to run on an empty gas tank.
Low estrogen causes your mood and libido to tank and makes your joints less flexible, mental state less focused and alive.
Low thyroid causes decreased mental acuity, fatigue, weight gain, and constipation.
Cortisol is the mother of all hormones.
Your hormones are designed to work for you, not against you. In this stage of our life as moms, there are 3 main hormones that need to find balance for us to feel our best: cortisol, thyroid and estrogen.
Cortisol is the mother hormone that needs to be taken care of first. Cortisol helps you respond to the scary effects of your everyday adventures by regulating the levels of other hormones, such as thyroid and estrogen.
Cortisol is the main hormone that affects your brain, body, stress and weight; it’s your source of focus and function. Thyroid affects your metabolism, and estrogen keeps you joyous with a strong sex drive.
Cortisol is the hormone that governs your hunger cravings, digestion, blood pressure, sleep/wake patterns, physical activity and capacity to cope with stress.
To simplify, cortisol keeps us alive via three key properties: It raises blood sugar, increases blood pressure and modulates inflammation.
How to lower your cortisol levels.
Fortunately there are easy ways to lower your cortisol levels. Many targeted lifestyle changes exist to help regulate high and/or low cortisol levels. Reiki, Pilates and hiking in nature work best for me.
Other tools and mind/body practices include: limiting alcohol, weaning from caffeine, deep breathing, mindfulness, mindset changes, acupuncture, having an orgasm, vitamin B5, fish oil … and so many more!
Each woman needs to find what calms her best. Go on a quest. It will be worth it. The result? You won’t blame it on the kids anymore ;)
Because the problem is not motherhood.
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