Making Time for Ourselves, After Becoming a Mom
As moms, it is innate for us to take care of everyone’s needs first. We fed the children first, get them what they need and then we eat the scrapes. We put a lot of time into making sure their every need is met daily, but then neglect ours. Obviously we take care of our basic needs as much as we can, but we need to also take care of our “wants!”
My ultimate goal is obviously to be the best mom to my girls, but I can’t do that if I’m not the best version of MYSELF. I can’t be a happy, healthy mom or wife, if I am not a happy, healthy ME. Before I was a mom and a wife, I was just Sara, and I need to take care of her too! We cannot give all of ourselves to our kids and spouses and expect to not need to fill up of what makes us who we are a a person.
This is easier said than done, but taking time, even 15 minutes to do something that will make us happier and healthier is so important. Finding an activity or task that is not about our kids or our spouses and only for OURSELVES is life-changing. I am a better mom when I do something for me, when I get a break from them. I take this time to step away and recharge me, and I come back a better mom. We cannot take care of others, especially our children, if we don’t take care of ourselves.
For me working out daily is one of the ways I take care of my needs. For others it might be going on a walk, or reading a book, or simply sitting in your car for 15 minutes, drinking your favorite coffee and listening to the music YOU want to listen to. Even if it seems like a hard task to make time for yourself, start out small. Give yourself five minutes a day and work it up to where you’re doing something that you actually love for a longer period of time.
It may seem hard but I promise you, you will feel like a much better mom when you take care of yourself. Being a mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job ever, make sure you are the happiest, healthiest version of yourself to do it.