I Don't Enjoy Being Pregnant
The extreme exhaustion, the constant nausea, the stomach and leg pains, the list goes on and on. Don't get me wrong, plenty of women experience wonderful pregnancies and actually love being pregnant. The fact that some women feel as if nothing is happening with their body and feel perfectly normal, baffles me. I am currently going through my forth pregnancy and they have all been the same. Thankfully, I have had healthy pregnancies, childbirths, and babies, which I am grateful for, but I would not consider any one of them a good pregnancy. My nausea starts as early as seven weeks and lasts into at least seven months. I always have extremely low blood pressure, which makes me even more tired and chasing around kids during the day, doesn't help. At this point, you may think "wow, she is just complaining", which I kind of am, but aren't we allowed? I mean, the least we deserve is to be able complain about how we are feeling during the nine months of pregnancy, without being judged.
I consider myself a very nonjudgmental person, for the fact, you never ever know what people have gone through or are currently going through. I believe we should all be considerate of others feelings, but I also feel we should be able to complain about our current situations, without someone judging us. For example, I feel guilty complaining about my pregnancies because I know there are women who can't get pregnant or have children. I don't discredit their feelings at all, but I also feel as though my feelings shouldn't be discredited. There is a balance of understanding everyones feelings and situations and at times it may be hard, but there is so much pressure on moms and having moms feel guilty about almost everything they feel and do. Obviously, if one of your friends has lost a child or cannot conceive, maybe that isn't the right friend to vent to, but there are plenty of other moms, who are feeling the same way you are, FIND THOSE MOMS!
Don't even get me started on social media, the number one culprit to mom guilt. Scrolling through gorgeous fit pregnant women, loving their life and glowing and doing so many activities with their children, while you're sitting on the couch, trying to pull yourself together to get your child a pop tart. Society makes us compare our pregnancies to others, forgetting, all pregnancies are different, which makes us forget that as well. It is okay to sit on the couch, feed your child a bag of popcorn for breakfast or a pop tart, and just DO NOTHING!
We have to remember: IT IS OKAY TO NOT ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY.
People will try to help by making comments like "it will be worth it in the end" or "maybe that means the baby will have lots of hair" or any other myth they can think of. Just remember, it is okay to ignore their comments and still feel bleh about being pregnant. Pregnancy is hard and every single one of us has a different experience. It is 100% okay to not enjoy your pregnancy and it is 100% okay to complain. Find people you can vent to and be kind to yourself.