The Salem Mummy Blogger Trials
The irony of writing this post is not lost on me... trust me when I say this!? Lately, I've personally become a lot more aware of mummy blogger bashing that goes on. I follow a lot of bloggers especially parenting ones as I value their input and stories.? I haven't received much directly, more so passively (meh) but I'm starting to see more and more people spend a lot of their free time absolutely hating on them that only makes you assume it's more of an obsession? What they do. How they raise their kids. If they are sell outs because they work with brands. How they look. Their lifestyle and financial status. They must have huge egos. Their posts. Their followers. Their... anything? It only makes you wonder how much time these "bashers" put into thinking and going through all of these things and what's weirder... why they are still following them in the first place?? Be cool guys... just chill. They ain't hurting you??
Here are a few things I'm learning on my own journey and (yes it's my personal opinion and I am no expert or massive mummy blogger) .... BUT! I started my own journey wanting to blog about our families journey with autism and have some resources and posts to help my local community and anyone going through the same thing. As we progressed I was so humbled and honored to meet a lot of other mothers and families that were going through the same thing. During this time a lot of mothers opened up about their own personal journeys and dreams that had been put on hold due to the new diagnosis the family were going through. I then started to also blog about them, trying to create a platform and outlet where they could showcase what they did. Some have little fashion lines or made handmade items that were absolutely beautiful and I just thought they had to be seen. My goal was to make them feel special. Then it organically grew into getting other mums to guest blog, share their experience and just open up. I loved it and still do. I had to leave my own job and stay at home , so not only did I fully understand, but I was meeting so very inspiring people.
As my own family grew and still grows, my blog has changed into more of general parenting and lifestyle. We are a family, we just happen to have autism thrown in the mix and I always say how lucky we are? The hard part of our journey was before Instagram and the special needs community was particularly large on social media. That's totally fine! Occasionally I do talk about it and I find more and more people are shocked that B is autistic. He has worked very hard and he is very high functioning now. But my previous post does talk a lot more about things we have gone through in order to get to where we are. But after a while you get beaten down by that community (unfortunately) because... all of a sudden your son isn't "autistic enough" to fit that bill and be in a position to share the story. I know a lot of other mums who have been in the same boat. My reaction was ... "meh good on ya" and I moved on. Wasn't really my issue? As I continued to blog it grew into, like I said, general parenting, showcasing small businesses or people that I just genuinely liked (didn't want anything from). I just liked showcasing people and what they do. Other mums and "bossbabes" as we call them. It's interesting! People are interesting and it's nice to get out there and meet them... even when it's online.
When you can't get out and about every day ... it's how we create a community! Over the course of this year, I've been very lucky to work along some amazing companies. They liked the children and my writing and slowly we began to work together. I would definitely not talk about a brand, company or product unless we 100000 % absolutely loved it and used it. And I know many, many other bloggers are exactly the same. And you know what?!? If it wasn't for some of these companies ( well namely one) I wouldn't have met some of the nicest people OR had the chance to get out of the house and meet them in flesh! So thank you! It was an absolute highlight and when I got there and sat with these other mummy bloggers, it was a real highlight for them too.
Their lives are not picture perfect. They work really hard to balance motherhood, family life, other work AND blog ( which is not all about writing by the way and is A LOT harder than most people think) and god forbid... heavens above... that it may actually be a fun outlet for themselves. In the small amount of their down time they fit this extra work in. People are looking up to these type of influencers and bloggers more and more on topics, products and brands because they value real opinions and accounts of how they work. You will generally get a greater insight to something because a blogger ( especially a Mum) will give you a deeper and more rounded description of their experiences with it.
Personally... I find this very helpful and will be more inclined to try such a product than seeing stock standard advertising or reviews. Not to mention #mumhacks and parenting tips, which I LOVE!! I just really want to put it out there, that if you don't know the full situation or, you haven't actually talked or asked another mummy blogger directly any of the questions or issues that you may have with them... then maybe... MAYBE, just focus your negativity some where else? Or unfollow. It's not doing you any good if it upsets you or takes up your own valuable time. Why have it in your life?? They ain't hurting you. But you potentially may be hurting them. And unless that really makes you feel better about life, then imagine what better things you could have to focus on.?To all my fellow mama bloggers out there. Keep up the good work and can't wait to keep connecting!